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it amazes me how whenever i mention that i'm a submissive partner that many people assume that it's not with consent. that there's no free will involved. free will is what makes surrender so meaningful and beautiful. <3

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HannahMR8h ago

I think that dynamic frightens people as they don't perceive it to be healthy. ...I'm one of those people.

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purrs_for_Her8h ago

understandable. and without consent it is. there is a sharp contrast between chosen submission and the nonsense a lot of the redpillers push.

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Ingwie Phoenix (aka. birb)8h ago

Well said, and I fully agree. :3

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D7h ago

So you’re kinda like a pet? How does the collar feel? Damn, I like my shit wild but whatever rocks your boat man.

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HannahMR7h ago

Giving up autonomy is not a path to self realization.

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Subema2h ago

Also how often they link submissiveness with masochism. Like yeah, it's quite a common co-occurrence, but I wouldn't say a major one.

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purrs_for_Her7h ago

submission is not giving up autonomy. submission is the *choice* to align with Her and prioritize Her. to devote myself fully. because that's where i find fulfillment. i choose in the face of stress, fatigue, and impulse just like anyone else. and sometimes i still fail because i ultimately choose to. and i do my best to own it, to learn from it, and to act with more integrity going forward. so i don't lose autonomy.

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HannahMR4h ago

okay, but don't you think that you matter? When do you get to be the priority? I'd argue that in a healthy relationship two people are supporting eachother. At times one may get prioritized, but balance is pursued. Your goals, your ambitions, your development shouldn't be ignored.

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purrs_for_Her3h ago

yes, i matter. i wouldn't surrender if i believed or felt that i didn't. i feel prioritized in some way every day because i’m Her partner, Her good boy. my development hasn't stopped. i've grown tremendously, especially in the past few years... so i don't disagree with your comment about supporting each other—we do very much so. the foundations of a healthy relationship don't change no matter what shape they take. submission doesn't have to look like 50 shades or redpill stuff. :/

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