yes, i matter. i wouldn't surrender if i believed or felt that i didn't. i feel prioritized in some way every day because i’m Her partner, Her good boy. my development hasn't stopped. i've grown tremendously, especially in the past few years... so i don't disagree with your comment about supporting each other—we do very much so. the foundations of a healthy relationship don't change no matter what shape they take. submission doesn't have to look like 50 shades or redpill stuff. :/