Take control of your relays with a curated smart short list and specially your own one, I suggest "Nostr RS Relay" I assume you are using or Umbrel or Star9 OS already, if not, consider the own build of Star9 way more robust OS than Umbrel https://github.com/Start9Labs/nostr-rs-relay-startos Choose robust relays, Primal censors but most newbs use it, therefore you need it, Damus is decent and does not censor, for videos and media content in general best to include as well nostr.band , nos.lol seems solid as well, you can check online for relays reliability as well.