Having read this, I’ll just stay out of this. Your explanation could imply serious wrong doing or just a disagreement on how he allocates his own time and energy. There seems to be a serious asymmetry in how you weigh things and how you imply he is weighing things that seem subjective to me. Because they seem subjective to me, and because I otherwise enjoy you, I’ll assume there’s an objective weighting system opaque to me and just hope bros and figure out a way to reconcile.