It makes sense for mempool relay policy to match consensus policy, otherwise you give an unfair advantage to large miners.
80% of the community are new to bitcoin but think they know everything because they listened to some podcasts and read some books, and wearing other people's opinions like a jacket. Only a small percentage has been around long enough to have actually lived through the last time this happend with Mike and then Jihan.
From my perspective, Core has been under attack for well over a decade, which is why most people quit and the competence level keeps dropping. We definitely have a problem, but Luke and his cult sending death threats etc are just the latest useful idiots in a long line of them which to my memory really started with Mike.
The best option is to pile in with Eric Voeskuil and libbitcoin.