First of all, I don't particularly like them. Secondly I WOULD go through surgery without anesthesia if I could. And thirdly, that's still an analogy, so there's nothing stopping them from saying "those two things aren't analogous, or even saying "I WOULDN'T want you to mourn me if I died; I would want you to drown your sorrows in alcohol." I'm pretty much just left with the original issue just rephrased in a different way. If someone has authentic feelings like sorrow which they can't or won't act on, is it still the wrong to choose not to feel them? And if so, why?